We cannot entertain the sin of self-pity and also walk in the power of God.
Wow. This hit me hard. You should read that phrase again. As I began to let this phrase sink into my heart, the Lord began to confirm within me how much I struggle with this sin without even realizing it. Majority of us are bound by the mindset of self-pity and allow it to hold us back from being effectively used by God. We feel sorry for ourselves, concentrating on our own needs. Self-pity is taking something that God intended to be given to others (compassion) and turning it in onto ourselves.
If I was completely honest, the truth is I struggle with self-pity. I get frustrated at different seasons in my life when I’m not where I thought I would be. I compare myself with someone else’s journey and wonder why I’m not there yet. I long to be an effective leader and speaker and blogger and to take the name of Jesus all over the world. I want to go into the deepest, darkest places and just LOVE the people there. I dream of doing HUGE things for Jesus and cry myself to sleep when I feel I’m not moving forward. When I struggle with speaking or writing I want to give up. I question, “God are you using me?? Where are you? Why aren’t things working out the way I thought they would?” BUT if you were honest with yourself, you could probably say that at some point in your journey of life you have struggled with self-pity too. We are in this constant daily struggle of trying to “measure up” to our own definition of “worth” and when we don’t (which we never will when we fail to see it from the eyes of Jesus) we feel sorry for ourselves and give up and accept the lie that “we will never be good enough, pretty enough, or worthy enough” to do anything that matters. Our FB friends who always seem to have it together, have way more likes than we do, and have what we want, will be our standard and we will never win the battle of self-pity.
Through the pages of my journal and the words I feel Jesus spoke to me this morning, I pray that as I walk you though the scriptures I am holding onto during this season of mine, it will encourage your heart and realign you spirit with that of Jesus so that you can LOVE God’s people well.
– Facebook and Instagram have been a struggle for me lately. I have realized how much time I’ve spent on them and the anxiety it causes at times. Social media can be a great thing but it can also be very harmful to our thoughts. It portrays this perfect world that we feel isolated from. It’s so easy to take our eyes off Jesus and feed the spirit of comparison in our minds. It even brings up things from the past and the enemy is so strategic in making us feel that we “missed that opportunity” or have “missed out.” When really we should be thanking Jesus for those blessings in the lives of “others” and praying that God would continue to reign His blessings down on them.
“Do not earnestly remember the former things; neither consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs forth. Do you not perceive and know it and heed to it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the dessert.” – Isaiah 43:18-19
God is preparing and making a NEW thing for YOU!! Leave the past behind and move forward. There is purpose in your waiting season. You are not where you want to be because God hasn’t released you to be there yet! He is preparing something SO NEW and SO great for you. But tear down the wall of self-pity and the mindset of dwelling on where you are not so you can enter where God wants you to be.
– I will only speak positive things from my mouth. I will NOT be bound by self-pity or negativism. I will look at myself in the mirror and call myself beautiful and worthy and a daughter of the most high King. I want to spend my time allowing God to fill my heart with His love so I can LOVE His people well.
“And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because He has given us the Holy Spirit, to fill our hearts with His Love.” -Romans 5:5
I believe this is the true answer to conquering self-pity in our lives. Once we realize how much God loves us and we allow this truth to fill our hearts, then we can defeat the enemy of self-pity, turn our eyes onto others and love them well to where they see and feel the LOVE of Christ. My goal is to consistently walk in this truth.
“Let each of you esteem and look upon and be concerned for not [merely] his own interests, but also for the interests of others.” – Philippians 2:4
“Therefore encourage (admonish, exhort) one another and edify (strengthen and build up) one another, just as you are doing.” – 1 Thessalonians
– I will look at disappointments in my life as an opportunity to be re-appointed by God. I will learn to fully believe in and trust that with God there is always a “new beginning” available. He can and He will work every situation out for my good. Don’t look at a disappointment in your life and feel sorry for yourself. Look at it as an opportunity to grow and keep your eyes on others and their needs rather than your own. If we can truly live like this (just as Jesus did) we will walk in ALL the fullness He has for us.
– I will rise early and set my mind every day.
“Let me hear of your unfailing love every morning, for I am trusting you. Show me where to walk, for I give myself to you.” -Psalm 143:8
– And this is my prayer and the cry of my heart…
“Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.” -Psalm 139:23-24
One thing I know for certain; God LOVES you . He has a plan for you. Don’t let disappointments in life drag you down and place you in this place of feeling sorry for yourself. Get back on track. Stay the course. Now is the time to REJOICE. You were worth dying for. I love you my beautiful friends!!