The struggle to find our value and identity is probably one of the biggest battles we as women face (and men as well). It’s a search to find significance in the eyes of others, an internal struggle that leaves us continuously unfulfilled day after day. We may not fully realize it but from the moment we wake up in the morning to deciding what to wear to putting make-up on our faces and racing out the door, we are in a constant battle with our self-worth. A little voice inside our head is whispering, you will never be enough.
When we lose sight of “who” we are and “whose” we are, we fall into the trap of comparison. Comparison clouds the promises of God and convinces you that God doesn’t have a plan for your life. It attacks the uniqueness of WHO God created you to be. Then your joy is gone and you feel isolated and alone.
Before we can ever find JOY and FULFILLMENT in our life, we must first realize WHO we are. YOU are a daughter of the KING! YOU are an HEIR of Christ. His MASTERPIECE. His BRIDE. We must believe and know the value we possess. It’s one thing to read who we are in the word of God but it’s another thing to actually believe it and walk in that truth. There will always be voices that surround you telling you “who” you should be and “what” you should be doing. Voices that try to convince you that you’re not enough and you’ve missed it. They cause you to revert to the past wishing you would have settled for something less that God’s best for your life. If we listen to these voices without taking them captive we will lead our lives down a destructive path away from God’s perfect plan.
My beautiful sisters, you have a God-written story, but your lack of knowing your value and identity in Christ can keep you in the waiting. The waiting season can be good and of great benefit but it can also be damaging if our eyes aren’t on Jesus. During this time it’s so easy to watch other stories around you unfold and compare it to your own. We allow our worth to diminish against that strength of someone else’s story. I’ve been there and at times I feel I’m in that place. We get tired of waiting and forget who is writing our own story; therefore we give-in and settle for an incomplete rather than a fully complete God-written story. We come to the conclusion that what we desire doesn’t really exist and that maybe we just aren’t one of those that God truly wants to use to write and amazing story. Lies then become reality. Have you ever felt that?
During the waiting season, we have to choose to believe, despite our circumstances, that we carry value and worth even when we don’t feel valued or worthy. Maybe you don’t feel loved or you compare your love story to someone else’s. Maybe you’re single and your fighting against the lies that you will always be single. Maybe you have made so many mistakes that you have lost who you are. Maybe you gave yourself away to someone who didn’t deserve you and now your fighting to find yourself again. Maybe you desire just to be loved but feel unloveable. Maybe you feel like you have nothing to offer, no gifts, not talents. BUT I pray you know this, God cares so much about your life that He wants to get you to a point to where you are a “strong, energetic, and confident girl who knows the value she possesses regardless of the way she feels or what her circumstances look like.” It’s in the moments when our faith is greater than our feelings that things began to change and we become BRAVE.
Embrace the story that God has entrusted you with. DARE to trust him. Be BRAVE. Even when it’s tough and when it doesn’t make sense. Find joy in the small things. I haven’t made it there yet but I KNOW that in the end of the struggle you will be able to look back and say “it was worth it.”